A few days ago, the New York Times published an article by Christopher Mele about so-called “filler words,” telling people to stop using them. Reporting on language often frustrates me, and this was no exception. In fact, thirty-odd linguists — including me — sent them a letter detailing our many concerns with this article. In particular, the article makes two major mistakes:
- It doesn’t address the many valuable functions these words play.
- It perpetuates a sneaky type of bias against women and young people.
What’s a discourse marker, anyway?
Language never occurs without context, and can’t be analyzed as if it did. Discourse, according to linguists, is the use of spoken or written language in a social context.
Meanwhile, discourse markers are words or phrases that help manage the flow of discourse.
To give a full list of discourse markers in English is probably impossible, but they include:
1. connectors like and, or, and but;
2. markers of time like now, then, and next;
3. words that show similarity and difference, including like and unlike;
4. cause-and-effect words like then, therefore, and because;
5. ways to introduce examples, such as for instance and such as;
6. summarizing words and phrases like briefly, to sum up, and as I was saying;
and all of the other words and phrases that connect our speech and writing to its larger context.
Writing anything beyond a few sentences would get very awkward without them: imagine an essay without in short or however or although!
What this means is that we can’t just get rid of them. Without discourse markers, we’d be limited to one short phrase at a time, with no way to explain how they’re related. We’d lack contrast (but and despite and although) and connection (and and also and in addition).
Rather than just telling you, let me show you. Here’s the beginning of the Bible, English Standard Version:
In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was without form and void, and darkness was over the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters.
Here it is again, without discourse markers:
In the beginning, God created the heavens. God created the earth. The earth was without form. The earth was (without) void. Darkness was over the face of the deep. The Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters.
Verbalized pauses: um, like, you know
Among the many types of discourse markers are a subset sometimes known as verbalized pauses. People who are not linguists also call them “filler words” and “verbal crutches,” but those terms are misleading.
Why don’t we just get rid of them, the NYT article asks. After all, “verbal fillers that can make you sound, you know, nervous or not so smart.”
These kinds of pauses do give us time to think of what we’ll say next — but that’s not all they do. Compare the examples below with and without the discourse markers.
They allow us to soften disagreement or criticism by making it somewhat more polite.
- The thing is, she worked really hard.
- Um, it’s my not my favorite.
They emphasize whatever it is we’re going to say next.
- My teacher is, like, a total nutjob.
They allow us to introduce delicate topics.
- Sooooo, um, how are things at home?
- Have you, ah, thought any more about counseling?
They communicate subtle nuances of emotional stance.
- I’m feeling, you know, not too bad about that exam.
They allow us to indicate our degree of certainty.
- I must have had, like, seven hundred pages of reading to do.
- She was, I think, pretty pissed off.
As you can see, these discourse markers do an immense amount of important social and emotional work for us. They add nuance and richness to our speech. In fact, we can’t be socially appropriate human beings without them. Even if we got rid of particular markers — if we stopped saying um and so and like — we’d just end up using new ones in their place.
The problem with prescription
There’s another problem with telling people not to use discourse markers such as “um” and “like,” and it’s a question of who gets punished for it.
Think about marijuana laws for a moment. Black people and White people use marijuana at similar rates. If enforcement were fair, you’d expect Blacks and Whites to get arrested at similar rates too. But if you’re Black, you’re almost four times as likely to be arrested for it. Surely that means something’s off with how we’re enforcing these laws.
And that’s what we see with criticism of these speech patterns. The NYT article is purportedly addressed to everyone, but it’s largely women and young people who are judged negatively for talking this way.
The article does make this point, or at least a related one. Mele writes: “Speakers who are well known in their professions but overuse verbal pauses are still perceived as credible because they have built a reputation. Audience members will chalk up those habits to just the way they talk, Ms. Marshall said. … But newcomers who use as many interjections as seasoned professionals will be seen as less credible because they do not have the years of experience.”
Yet he stops short of the obvious conclusion: there’s nothing wrong with using these words. The only people who are critiqued for using them are already low-status, and this critique helps maintain the low status of certain people and groups.
Experts who aren’t
Both of these problems could have been avoided if the author had spoken to any linguists or looked at the empirical research on these questions.
The experts Mele chose to cite are those who reinforce the point he wants to make. At least one of them was unaware of the existing research: “Ms. Marshall said she had not seen any research attributing speech patterns to certain demographics but had noticed that ‘like’ is used heavily by the younger generation, ‘so’ by those in their 30s and ‘uptick’ or ‘upspeak’ — ending a declarative sentence in such a way that it sounds like a question — by women in their 20s and 30s.”
In fact, there’s been quite a bit of research. And while it shows some gender differences, they’re much smaller than most people believe. I won’t bore you with an exhaustive literature review, but here are just a few examples.
- Alexandra D’Arcy notes that men use like more than women in certain contexts, while women use it more in others. While these differences are statistically significant, they’re also fairly small. She also notes that older people use these forms quite regularly. Source.
- Thomas J. Linneman finds that — at least in some contexts — men and women use uptalk with similar frequency, although the functions and outcomes differ. Source.
- In a 2014 paper, Amanda Ritchart and Amalia Arvaniti note that women do seem to use uptalk more frequently than men, but that men use it more frequently than popular perception suggests. Like Linneman, they found differences in when, how, and why men and women use it.
And so on…
Rather than relying on folk wisdom, it’s best to consult experts who know the peer-reviewed literature before writing pieces like these. That way, writers can avoid drawing misleading conclusions.
(ETA: Emily Prud’hommeaux, one of the experts quoted in the original piece, wrote me to point out that “…the author *did* quote me saying that like and friends have the sort of important discourse functions you describe. He didn’t mention all of the functions I listed, though, and my use of correct terminology and my crazy diatribe about how like is unfairly maligned also got left out.” So it would be more accurate to say that Mele chose not just his experts but also his quotations based on the story he wanted to tell.)
Let’s stop demonizing um and like already
Despite what hand-wringers like Mele may argue, discourse markers — even the verbalized pauses — aren’t going away anytime soon. In fact, we need them in order to be socially appropriate, and that means they’re not going away at all. (Even when you get rid of one, another takes its place. For instance, hey and yo have replaced some of the functions of why and say. Source.)
Although it claims to help everyone, the truth is that arguments like Mele’s disproportionately hurt women and young people. And there’s nothing wrong with the way women and young people speak. Rather than encouraging women and young people to change the way they talk, let’s look at ourselves. Why do we judge ways of speaking associated with these groups so harshly?
This article and others like it get the cause-and-effect wrong. Women and young people don’t “sound stupid” because they say like too much. We associate like with “sounding stupid” because we think women and young people sound stupid in general. So let’s address the real problem — our systematic devaluation of women and young people — rather than blaming it on their behavior.
Further reading: writing by linguists
- Deborah Schiffrin’s Discourse Markers
- Alexandra D’Arcy, “Like and Language Ideology: Disentangling Fact from Fiction.” American Speech 82 (4), 2007: 386-419.
- Michael Erard’s Um…: Slips, Stumbles, and Verbal Blunders, and What They Mean
- Deborah Cameron’s “Just Don’t Do It”
Further reading: popular articles backed by linguistics
- Marybeth Seitz-Brown, Young Women Shouldn’t Have to Talk Like Men to Be Taken Seriously
- Jan Hoffman, Overturning the Myth of Valley Girl Speak
25 thoughts on “Let’s stop demonizing “filler words””
Can you share the letter that you and the 30+ linguists wrote?
The NYT doesn’t publish letters that have been printed elsewhere. I imagine they are not going to publish this one either, since we haven’t heard from them yet — but I don’t want to share it until a full week has passed!
Pingback: A linguistic anthropologist explains why Christopher Mele's New York Times article on filler words is wrong and banning phrases like "like" and "um" could be sexist — Quartz
Pingback: Let’s stop demonizing “filler words” – Comments From The Peanut Gallery
Reblogged this on Extreme Randomness.
this was a good article, though as someone with a learning disability and mental illnesses, i’m somewhat perturbed by the seeming unquestioning of “stupid” being bad, and devaluing.
There’s not room for everything everywhere … but I appreciate the reminder that I’m overdue for a discussion of ableism in language. (I’m also perturbed by the other side of your comment — the conflation of LD and (lack of) intelligence — but I realize it’s frustratingly widespread.)
i don’t think i made that conflation, simply said why the conflation bothers me.
i was actually told i was extremely bright, until suddenly my learning disabilities got in the way too much.
then came the floods of “stupid” and worse.
and yet, half the time in assessments and the like, i get told it can’t really be that serious, because i’m well spoken.
i think is well understand the ways people conflate and then ignore these two things based on my personal history and other people’s writings.
i didn’t want to get into a huge discussion about this topic since it isn’t really what your blog post is about, but,
it is a fact that terms like “moron” and “imbecile” were coined to categorise how much someone was disabled or not in the eugenics era.
so i do not think that i am conflating learning disabilities with a lack of intelligence by simply pointing out that my own means i have a higher stake in the way people casually demonise or prioritise things based on their *perception* of intelligence.
in fact, a lot of my whole reason to be invested in this topic is that “intelligence” is not so much a thing. not on its own.
not in a linear scale.
people are not simply “more” or “less” intelligent than each other.
it is a marker of normative academic ability. people can be amazing at some things, and struggle with others, but they are still brilliant in their own field regardless of if their teachers thought they “weren’t very intelligent”.
it’s simply another form of prioritizing certain types of ability. just mental ones, instead of physical.
I didn’t mean to imply that you yourself were conflating them, although I see how my comment can be read that way. When I said “the other side of your comment” I meant that you experience other people making that conflation, which is really upsetting, as you illustrate beautifully here.
I really appreciate your reflection on the topic, by the way. It’s very much the circular logic we see across, e.g., the school system: there’s a tension between “group X isn’t performing” and “the system doesn’t value the skills that group X actually has”
LikeLiked by 1 person
ah, yes.. sorry. it is, as you may have guessed, a touchy subject for me. most of the time i don’t even bother trying to say anything.
I got around to writing about this — https://jenabl.wordpress.com/2017/03/15/stupid-is-as-stupid-does/ — and I’d love your thoughts on the topic! I’d particularly like to know what I got wrong. 🙂
hi, i’ve had a rough couple weeks, but i just checked out this blog post, and i thought it was pretty good. would’ve appreciated a heads up about your example of, well, i normally call it “the r word”, being uncensored, though.
i hadn’t actually considered the idea of someone reclaiming “stupid” before, even though i’ve reclaimed “mad” and “crazy” for myself. so thanks.
The original article against filler-words may have gone overboard, but the arguments for them are even worse.
Yes, we don’t want to entirely eradicate these words, but their overuse is creating a generation of young people who cannot express themselves properly (with language), and have to resort to a filler “like” and then a live demonstration of the emotion for which they do not know the proper word.
I am a university professor in sciences, and the more serious problem for me is that some students cannot drop these filler words when they discuss technical material. If they were fully in charge of when to turn it on and off, I would have no problem with it. They are being used to compensate for their lack of vocabulary. That is the real tragedy here.
Speaking as someone who has taught quite a number of university courses in the (social) sciences, I don’t agree in the slightest.
Students’ inability to grasp the concepts or communicate about them has nothing to do with their use of verbal pauses. I had students who knew what they were talking about, many of whom used verbalized pauses when they talked about it; I’ve also had students who made up utter nonsense or misunderstood the concepts, both with and without heavy use of verbalized pauses.
So, can the same thing be said for using “So” at the beginning of every sentence???
If by ‘the same thing’ you mean ‘there’s nothing wrong with using these words’ then yes, absolutely.
When I was in college (Can it be over 40 years ago?), I majored in Broadcasting. We were castigated for using filler words when practicing extemporaneous speech, and I got in the habit of taking a breath when I felt myself about to say “um”, “ah”, “er”, or another of the fillers. I found this to be acceptable, and continued doing so for years, with the occasional “however”, “although”, “be that as it may”, or similar phraseology creeping in.
Then one day, I saw someone do a parody of William F. Buckley, and felt as though I was watching myself.
So, y’know, I don’t, um, worry about using fillers any more. I’d rather look and sound, oh, I don’t know, maybe a bit uneducated, than pretentious.
May I keep demonizing the use of moderators like “sort of” before superlative terms, such as “it was sort of a complete catastrophe”? In my case, I have become more irritated by this generation-associated speech pattern as the users have aged into adulthood. When it was college students speaking this way, it was charmingly youthful, but when I hear tenured professors on NPR talking about their recently published book, I get tired of having every total disaster be a “a little bit of a total disaster”.
So, like, this touches on a topic that I find frustrating as I hear my granddaughter
express herself. I wish that I could relax in the face of our evolving language. I’ll keep trying!
Reblogged this on Coffee and Bookaholics and commented:
With so many rules of what words one should or should not use, this is an interesting article
As an English teacher, something that has always baffled me is that in US produced standardized tests, such as TOEFL, listening selections are pristine and without verbal fillers. UK produced audios include many pauses, hesitation markers, and even some mistakes that speakers correct. The latter sound a lot more natural, and I prefer them to prepare students for what lies ahead.
Pingback: What it really sounds like to be American: A response to NPR’s Code Switch | ...And Read All Over
THANK YOU for writing this.